“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has
joined together, let not man separate.” – Matthew 19:6
Recently my parents
have entered into 40th year of their marriage life. As a family we
have gone through so many tough times but God helped us in everything. God
sustained their marriage life and I had learnt so many things from their life.
As a small boy I had
seen my father getting angry for everything. He was addicted to smoking and
used to beat my mother at times. I was so little at that time. My mother always
put me before my father when he gets angry because he loves me a lot and so
when he sees me, he won’t go to any extreme step.
All through those
times, my mom was so patient and cried a lot to God. She had never shared much
of her problems even to her mother. For many months my father was jobless and
none of our relatives came to help. I could say God provided everything to us
even in those difficult times.
Years passed and God
helped my father to come out of all the bad habits. God also gave him a good
job. We started to grow in the relationship with God. Everything went well and
suddenly my father got seriously ill. We feared that he might die at anytime
and again God heard our prayers and healed my father.
The management to
which my father was working doesn’t like him much and so they had filed a false
case in his name. They said my father has to pay 7 crore rupees and at that
time my father salary was less than five thousand rupees. The owners of that
company wanted to arrest my father and torture him for no reason. During those
times I was in my teen age and whenever I see a police man I fear a lot
thinking they might come and arrest my father.
My mother taught us to
pray a lot for my father and we cried to God and looked Him for help.
Graciously God relieved my father from that case and he was proved innocent.
At times my parents
used to throw words at each other in anger. Certain nights when I hear them
fighting I fear they might get separate. But when the sun rises they behave so
normal as if nothing had happened between them the previous night. They forgive
each other so quickly and move on without pondering about what has happened.
When my mother got
cancer, my father stood behind her side and helped her in all possible ways.
Though my father never expressed his love upon my mother openly, he always
tells me how he treasure her relationship and how blessed he is to have her in
his life. Even now when my mother comes
and stays in my home for few days, my father used to tell me that he feels so
lonely without her.
I can personally say
that it was because of God’s grace they were alive today. God has carried them
so wonderfully so far and made them to enter into 40th year.
Few things I had
learnt from their relationship and want to share it with you:
1.
Always look to God for your every
need. Men will fail but God will never fail you.
2.
Try to raise your children in Godly
values and teach them to seek God for everything.
3.
Even when you fight with each other,
ask sorry quickly and move on.
4.
Do not hate your life partner at any
time.
5.
Give some time to your life partner
to get into right direction and during this course, do pray for her/him.
6.
When any one of you speaks in anger, do not
try to answer it in the same tone. Listen patiently and once their anger goes
down, talk to them. Do not argue unnecessarily.
7.
Most importantly, pray a lot for
your spouse so that you will stay united.
8.
Do not cheat your spouse by getting
into unnecessary relationships.
9. When you face difficulties, stay together.
I thank God for their
life and the way He had led them so beautifully all this years. Because of God’s
abundant grace in my parents family life, we their children were richly blessed
today.
My dear young friends,
if you are married, do submit your relationship into God’s hands and look to
Him for everything. He will lead you, guide you and protect you.
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