“We
then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to
please ourselves.” – Romans 15:1
Few days back I was
waiting at an airport to receive a guest. I bought a ticket and went into the
departure area. There was not much crowd there. When the flight arrived,
everyone came to the baggage belt and waited for their bags. A gentleman took
his baggage and came to sit in the place where I was standing. His wife waited
for another bag and once she came with the bag, her husband stood up and walked
towards her with his bag.
As both were walking,
his wife suddenly stopped and looked at his baggage and then looked at his face
with a smile and asked, “Where is your laptop bag?” He remembered about his bag
only when she had asked about it and he ran towards the place where he was
sitting moments before. As there was not much crowd, the laptop was safe in the
bag and he took it and came towards her.
I could understand
from both of their expressions that he does forget things often like what
happened on that day and so I was waiting eagerly for the reaction of his wife
once he return back to her after taking his laptop bag.
She never looked at
him angrily or in a different way. She simply smiled as he told his own reason
for his carelessness. She accepted it and they both walked out happily without
any argument or words that might hurt each other.
My dear young friend,
even in your marriage life, your spouse might be careless or weak in certain
areas or things. He / She might have a tendency to forget certain things and
because of that many valuable things might have got lost.
How we react to their
weakness is very important? The woman I saw in the airport never showed any
kind of disappointment or disapproval. She accepted the way and she spoke very
politely to him. Only I was standing there and she didn’t react in disrespectful
way to her husband. Because of her smile and politeness, they left out of the
airport so happily. The peace and the joy between them were never disturbed.
God wants us who were
strong ought to bear the failings of the weakness of our spouse. Do not show
your frustration and anger upon your spouse in public when they did something
wrong. Do not react madly to their mistakes. Try to understand the weakness of
your spouse and support and encourage him/her to do better. Do not put him/her
down in front of somebody. If you want to convey something to your spouse about
his/her weakness, speak to him/her politely and show that you care for him/her.
Do not speak to him/her
in authoritative tone in such situations. That may lead to some problems and
your peace will get affected. Accept the weakness of your spouse, love and
respect them. Do not hurt them by your disrespectful words or behaviour. Then
God’s peace and joy will overflow in your life. You will stay united.
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